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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mom-entum Podcast! I am so excited you are here! I hope that whatever you celebrate, that your holidays were joyful.  

 

Although, I do acknowledge that this season can be a difficult time for a lot of people, and if that’s you ok. Know that you are not alone, know that there is support around you, seek help, and most importantly receive the help. Because you deserve it.  You deserve to feel better.  

 

Remember life is 50/50, that means it is supposed to be negative half the time and positive half the time.  Don’t shift the scales up to 75% negative because you are telling yourself you should be happier more often.  This doesn’t help.  But do focus on the good in your life.  I promise there are things in your life that are good, in fact, I would argue, that when pressed to find all of the positive things in your life you would actually find more positive than negative.  

 

To start, if you are listening to this podcast, that right there is something to be grateful for.  Because that means #1 you have the ability to hear, which is such a blessing in itself, that you are so effortlessly able to hear and absorb information from the outside world in this way. I know this is something so many of us take for granted, myself included.  

 

Then number 2, if you are listening to this podcast that means you have a phone, a car, or some sort of device that allows you to access this podcast, it means you have access to wifi, Amazing!!! Internet has allowed us to connect with people all around the world, it has opened up so many more opportunities for us to learn, any question we have we can answer with just a tap of a button!  

 

This is something that comes in handy for me, and I think you all will relate to this as moms, the millions of questions that my kids ask. Like totally random questions that I have no idea how to answer.  Let me think of some of them right now.  My son is the best for this, he has asked questions like how many countries are there in the world, or he will ask random questions like if we are watching a movie, he will ask where the movie was filmed, or just like the meanings of certain words that like I understand what the word means, however to turn around and think of how to explain it to a 6 year old, can be such a mind bending task.  Which is why I love chat Gpt which is great for this, recently I asked it to explain what a “den” was to a 6 year old.  So random, but he asked me what it was and I was like I know what it is, but it’s hurting my brain to think of how to describe this to you, so chat gpt came to the rescue!

 

Anyways, I know I got off on a tangent there, and I apologize.  But I really want to, yes, acknowledge anyone out there going through a difficult time.  I want to encourage you to reach out and seek support, you have so much available to you.  Take control of your feelings and your life as only you have the power to do. Feel the feelings, don’t suppress them, journal about it, this will create space between you and the challenging feelings.  It will also help shift your perspective and see what you can do to change the situation, it will help empower you.  

 

But listen, know this.  It’s ok to feel negative emotions like anger, sadness, disappointment, discouragement, grief.  It is completely normal and part of the human experience. However, you can’t manifest what you want from these emotional states.  You must be feeling good in order to manifest.  And this is precisely what I will be talking about on the podcast today.  

 

So if you are listening on the day that this podcast airs it is New Year’s Eve, it is the last day of 2025.  And what I want to know is, have you thought about what you want the next year to look like?  I don’t want this to be another year for you that you just allow life to happen to you.  I want you to learn to be the creator of your life.  I want this to be the year that you keep the promises you make to yourself.  I want this to be the year that you get honest with yourself, you get clear, you fearlessly unearth the buried wants and desires that are hidden within you.  Those wants that have been buried so deep because of fear, fear of what people would think, fear that you would fail, fear of the uncertainty, fear of being rejected.  Let’s get to the root of it.  What would you do if you weren’t afraid?  What would you allow yourself to want if you weren’t afraid?  That’s what I want us to find out.  And listen, just because you say it out loud, it doesn’t mean you have to do it.  Your brain will keep you from accessing this information because it is trying to protect you, because of fear of what will happen if you actually do this thing.  Like if I start this business, what will people think, and I don’t even have the money to do that, and what if I fail, it’s going to take so much time and effort, and then what if I fail then all of that money spent, time and effort will be wasted, will be for nothing.

 

  No, don’t allow yourself to go there, thoughts like that will block you.  Just tell yourself just because I’m saying this out loud doesn’t mean I have to do it, and that will create enough space, it will lower your guard just enough to find out what’s there.  But at least get honest with yourself.  Tell yourself the truth.  And once you say it or write it down, you bring it into reality, it is now a thing.  Suddenly it’s not just a thought in your mind anymore.  And now, we see what magical things can happen.  

 

There is a verse from the Gospel of Thomas that says,“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you.

If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”

 

Oohh do I love that verse. And I think that this verse accounts for not just the talents you have, i think this includes your wants, your dreams, your desires. Even the thoughts and emotions that you bury within you and keep to yourself, it saves you when you can get it out of you.  

 

When you can write it down on paper, or say it out loud to someone. It is so uplifting, it feels like removing a heavy weight that you have been carrying for far too long.  Now I’m not talking about complaining or gossiping.  That does not make you feel good.  And complaining and gossiping lowers your frequency (which is essentially a measurement of your energy) and according to the law of attraction, like attracts like, and you are going to attract more things that are on the same frequency you are on, so you attract more things in your life that you are complaining or gossiping about.  We will talk more about that later.

 

But think about it, how do you feel when you harbor these negative feelings, when you keep them to yourself? It doesn’t feel good.  And then it attracts more negative thoughts and feelings, it’s that snowball effect.  Haven’t you ever been thinking about something negative that happened, something that really made you mad, and then suddenly that leads to more and more negative thoughts about that person or thing that happened, like can you believe she made that comment? What did she even mean by that? And what about that time she said this, and that?  And suddenly you are spiraling and someone could ask you a simple, innocent question when you are in this state and you snap on them.  It’s because of the negative spiral you are in.  And it all stemmed from one negative thought.  

Now I want to introduce you to something called the creative process, which comes from The Secret and the Law of Attraction. It’s simple, but incredibly powerful. There are three steps:

Ask.
Believe.
Receive.

Today, we’re focusing on ASKING.

Asking means getting clear — not vague. Not “I just want to be happy,” but honest, intentional clarity about what you actually want.

So instead of saying I want to be happy, ask yourself: what makes me happy?
Because happiness doesn’t come from things outside of you — it comes from within. It comes from the thoughts you think, the meaning you assign, and the way you choose to show up.

And here’s something important to understand: the universe cannot respond to vagueness.
It can only respond to clarity.

Think of it like asking Google or Alexa a question. If you’re unclear about what you’re asking, you’re going to get an unclear answer. Your outputs determine your inputs.

Another key principle of the Law of Attraction is this: it does not register negations.
In other words, when you focus on what you don’t want, you attract more of it.

For example, if you constantly say, “I don’t have enough time,” the universe hears, “Give me more situations where time is scarce.”
It simply responds to the energy and focus of your words.

So instead, catch that thought and flip it:
👉 “I have plenty of time for what truly matters to me.”

Or if you find yourself saying, “I don’t want another bill,” the focus is still on bills — and the universe responds accordingly.

So try this instead:
👉 “I am supported financially, and money flows to me with ease.”

This is not about lying to yourself.
It’s about training your focus toward what you want to create instead of what you’re trying to avoid.

Because clarity is power.
And the more intentional you are with your thoughts and words, the more intentionally you begin creating your life.

You cannot manifest what you are unclear about.

And this is where resistance shows up.

Your brain will immediately jump in and say:
“That’s unrealistic.”
“That’s not practical.”
“You don’t have the time.”
“You don’t have the money.”
“What will people think?”

So here’s what I want you to do instead:
Ask yourself what do you really, really, really want, and I want you to write for the trash can.

This is unedited. No censoring. No fixing grammar. No making it sound reasonable. You are not writing this to show anyone. You are writing this to access yourself.

Let yourself be ridiculous. Let yourself dream wildly. Let yourself say things you’ve never said out loud before.

This is not about committing.
This is about uncovering.

We are strengthening a muscle that has gone unused for far too long — your imagination.

We are retraining the part of your brain that immediately shuts down your ideas out of fear, labeling them as “unrealistic.”

But let me ask you again — what is wrong with unrealistic?

I don’t want to be realistic.

How realistic was it when Steve Jobs imagined the iPhone?
How realistic was it when the Wright brothers believed humans could fly?
How realistic was it when we decided to send a human being to the moon?

Every breakthrough that changed the world began as something “unrealistic” in the mind of someone who refused to shrink their vision.

When you shut down your ideas, your wants, and your desires because they don’t seem practical or logical, you keep yourself small. And when you play small, your life stays small — and so does the impact you’re capable of having on everyone around you.

So instead of shutting it down, let’s open it up.
Let’s work that imagination.
Let’s reconnect with the sense of wonder, awe, and possibility we had as children — before the world taught us to be cautious, reasonable, and afraid to dream.

Because your vision wasn’t given to you by accident.
And the world doesn’t need more “realistic.”
It needs what only you can imagine.

 

 

So here are three questions I want you to sit with — and really sit with them.  Get a paper and pen. And if your driving, please plan sometime in your day to come back to this.  Seriously, schedule it on your calendar.  Just 15 minutes, allow yourself at least 5 minutes per question here.

Question #1:
Again, What do you really, really, really want?

Not what you should want.
Not what makes sense.
Not what feels safe.

What do you want?

Don’t limit yourself but have fun with this. How do you want to feel every day? How much money do you want to make? Do you want to go on a vacation this year? Where do you want to go and with who? How about a girls trip? What books do you want to read? Do you want to volunteer? Start a new hobby? Maybe take a cooking class or an art class. Learn how to play golf. Maybe you want to go on more dates with your partner. Maybe you want to start waking up earlier, like before everyone else in the house wakes up so that you can guarantee you get some uninterrupted “me time”- it makes such a difference- trust me I know! These are just some examples to get you going because I know for so many of us this can feel uncomfortable and hard because it’s something they we haven’t allowed ourselves to do for a very long time. Because we believe why bother, it’s not like I’m going to have the time to do any of these things, so if I don’t think about it or say it then I don’t have to experience the disappointment. But then we just end up disappointing ourselves ahead of time because we never even gave ourselves a shot. It’s like playing the lottery. Yes the odds aren’t the greatest yet you are gonna win. But you know what will guarantee that you won’t win it? Not playing at all. So at least give yourself a chance!

Question #2:
What would you do if you weren’t afraid? If you had all the time and the money in the world?

If fear was not part of the equation — no fear of failure, no fear of judgment, no fear of rejection — what would you allow yourself to pursue?

Question #3:
a year from today, how do I want to feel when I reflect on 2026? Satisfied? Peaceful? Accomplished 

If your life this year were a movie:

• What would the title be?
   

• What would your character be like?
   

• What would some of the highlight scenes be?
   

Again — you are not committing to anything.
You are expanding.
You are remembering what it feels like to dream.

Later, we will prioritize. Later, we will narrow it down.
But for now, let yourself think bigger than you’ve allowed yourself to think in a very long time.

And I can’t emphasize this enough, Pay attention to the thoughts you are thinking, to the words that are coming out of your mouth. Your thoughts are things. So many have said this.

Manifesting always begins in your mind. Every material thing that exists in this world, every invention, every cure, began as a thought in someone’s mind.

So many of the wisest teachers — across philosophy, psychology, and coaching — have said some version of this same truth:

your thoughts are not passive… they are creative.

And I want to be really intentional here and highlight women who have taught this in such a grounded, powerful way.

One of my greatest teachers and mentors, and who I truly believe is one of the best life coaches in the world, is Brooke Castillo.

Brooke teaches something called The Model, which is simple but life-changing:

Your thoughts create your feelings.

Your feelings drive your actions.

Your actions create your results.

In other words — your life is a direct reflection of the thoughts you practice every day.

That means if you are trying to manifest something new — more peace, more time, more money, more joy — but you are thinking the same thoughts on repeat…

Nothing changes.

You don’t get a new life from old thinking.

This is why ASK is not just about what you write down —

it’s about becoming aware of what you’re mentally rehearsing all day long.

Another woman who articulated this beautifully is Louise Hay, who taught:

“Every thought we think is creating our future.”

She didn’t mean that in a scary way.

She meant it in an empowering way.

Because if thoughts are creating your life, then awareness gives you choice.

And this aligns perfectly with what modern psychology and neuroscience tell us:

your brain strengthens whatever you think most often.

So when I say:

“Pay attention to the thoughts you are thinking”

I mean this lovingly, not critically.

Because here’s the thing:

You cannot ask clearly if your mind is full of unconscious noise.

You cannot call something new in while mentally rehearsing everything that’s wrong.

And you cannot manifest a life you don’t believe — at least a little — is possible for you.

This first step of the creative process — ASK — is really an invitation to slow down and notice:

• What am I repeatedly telling myself?
   

• What story am I living inside of?
   

• And is this thought helping me create what I say I want?
   

Because your thoughts are things.

They become feelings.

They become behaviors.

They become patterns.

And eventually… they become your life.

So this week, don’t just write down what you want.

Listen to your mind.

Watch your words.

Notice what you’re practicing internally.

That awareness alone is already the beginning of manifestation.

And this — this — is how we begin.

January is not about grinding harder.
It’s not about fixing yourself.
It’s not about becoming worthy.

You already are.

January is about alignment.
It’s about clarity.
It’s about intention.

Next week, we’re going to talk about BELIEVING — what to do when doubt creeps in, how to build faith before the evidence shows up, and how to stop sabotaging what you say you want.

And the week after that, we’ll talk about RECEIVING — how to allow without forcing, how to let things come to you, and how to recognize when what you asked for starts showing up.

But today, your only job is to ask.

To get honest.
To get curious.
To stop abandoning yourself before you even begin.

So as we close out this year, I want you to know this:
You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are not too late.

You are standing at the very beginning of something new.

Be gentle with yourself.
Be open.
Be willing.

And I will be right here with you — walking this process together, one step at a time.

I love you, I believe in you, and I cannot wait to see what you create.

I’ll talk to you next week.