Rewire Your Mind: A Practical Approach to Beating Anxiety with Danita Young

Tanya Valentine
May 12
30 min read

Updated: May 14

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In this powerful episode, I sit down with Cognitive Performance Expert Danita Young, who went from being homeless to creating a thriving business that helps women find calm, clarity, and confidence. Her approach to overcoming anxiety is not what you’re used to hearing—no medication, no reliving trauma, just practical tools that work with your brain instead of against it.

We dive into:

Danita’s incredible story of transformation and resilience
What anxiety really is—and how it’s secretly trying to protect you
The difference between surviving and thriving (and how to shift out of survival mode)
A simple 4-step process to rewire limiting beliefs
Why your thoughts are the root of time management and energy
The body’s response to anxiety vs. expansion—and how to change your emotional state
How to begin healing with one small, powerful step today

Resources & Links:

Schedule your free consult with Danita: callwithdanita.com (Mention The Mom-entum Podcast for a bonus!)
Follow Danita on Instagram @danitayoung and learn more about her work

Let’s Stay Connected:

Grab my free 5-Minute Reset for busy moms: tanyavalentinecoaching.com/reset
Follow me on Instagram:@tanyavalentinecoaching or facebook @tanyavalentinecoaching
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Transcript

Hello and welcome to another episode of The Mom-entum Podcast, the show dedicated to inspiring, uplifting and empowering women on their journey through motherhood. I'm your host, Tanya Valentine, and I'm so excited your here.

Today’s guest is someone who knows what it’s like to hit rock bottom—and rise. Danita Young is a Cognitive Performance Expert who went from being homeless to creating a multimillion-dollar business. In this episode, she shares powerful tools to overcome anxiety without medication, shift from survival to thriving, and finally get out of the loop of procrastination and self-doubt. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re just getting through the day, this conversation will speak straight to your soul. Without further ado, here’s my conversation with Danita Young.

Tanya: Hello! Welcome to the show, Danita. Thank you so much for taking the time to come on the momentum podcast.

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Jay Crew: Yes, I'm I'm ready to. Party, girl. Let's have some fun, and let's show moms how much fun we can have over here.

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Tanya: Yes, beautiful. So before this I forgot to mention this to you. I recorded an intro for you, with your bio and everything. But can you right now just share your story with us? And what led you to become a life coach and specialize in helping people overcome anxiety.

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Jay Crew: Yes, yeah. So

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Jay Crew: you know, it's so funny when you talk about story. I feel like most of us. What we're going to find is that we're going along in life. We're going around a certain thought pattern of what we think we're going to be or what we're going to be when we grow up, and then, all of a sudden, you are sitting in a completely different

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Jay Crew: filled than you imagined yourself to be, and.

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Tanya: So relate, yeah.

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Jay Crew: When the heck did I get here? And usually, when you find your your greatest purpose passion right, Ted, the thing that really is your dharma that wakes you up every day. It's 1 of those things you really get accidentally tripped into, and that's really how it was for me.

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Jay Crew: For me. It was I started off, being an entrepreneur and man. That world is scary for all of those entrepreneurs that are out there, especially those mama, entrepreneurs where you are juggling way more than just being an entrepreneur. But it is so scary you you wake up and go to work, and you don't know if you're getting paid. In fact, you might actually lose money if you go to work that day, because you might be making some costly mistakes. And so it really just rattled my world by being an entrepreneur.

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Jay Crew: And so that's how it started. And I started off by the owner and founder of booty, bands and barbells. So it was a women's fitness and home gym that I created and designed. And so I really started off with that. And it was so fascinating, just working with women and fitness.

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Jay Crew: and really just getting behind the scenes of what's called their transformation. That's ultimately what it is when you're in fitness is a transformation, and I didn't uncover that until I got deep within coaching. That I was like. This is a transformation. It is completely taking their old version of themselves, their belief to their thoughts, their emotions, their actions, their outcome, and completely flipping it into a newer and better Ver version of themselves.

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Jay Crew: and by doing that, next thing you know, it was

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Jay Crew: life coaching I was like, how did I get here? I had no idea that I was. I jumped into life coaching. And the next thing you know it was, I was helping relationships with marriages. I was helping addicts, overcome addictions. I was helping teenagers overcome suicidal thoughts like all of a sudden. Next thing you know, I'm just sitting here like, how did this happen? And and so

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Jay Crew: so grateful, really so grateful, that I tripped into that. And what a beautiful experience! But a lot of people that know my story! Probably if anyone's seen my kind of journey. A lot of that took. I went from homelessness to then making 15 mil. So it definitely a crazy journey in between of rock bottom moments and everything in between. And so I'm not afraid to share those rock bottom moments with you guys, because I feel like that's where that is our comeback story, and that's

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Jay Crew: it really does

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Jay Crew: defines us. And with that I'll say, when I was in my rock bottom moment, somebody said, if you feel like a pile of mush with a blanket around you. That just means you are your caterpillar phase in your cocoon waiting to be a butterfly. So it's okay, girl, if you feel like a pile of mush with a blanket wrapped around you soon enough, you'll grow your wings, and you'll be able to fly as well.

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Tanya: Oh, I love that. Tell me more about you being homeless, though I didn't know that about you. If you don't mind if you're comfortable sharing, because I'm sure people listening have questions, and are just curious to know, like I am.

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Jay Crew: Yeah, I so I would say, I never really was the type of person that struggled with

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Jay Crew: depression or anxiety, or anything like that growing up. I felt like I was very optimistic and positive. And you know, spiritual. And so I I feel like I didn't have much issues with that. But as we go through life we're gonna find things that are gonna break us. And the breaking point for me, was it was. It was I was. I was an addict of

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Jay Crew: working. I was an overworker, and the reason why this was is because I was chasing a limiting belief of. I am good enough, and I felt that success without struggle is undeserved.

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Tanya: Hmm.

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Jay Crew: And boy did. That hit me hard, as I had to really learn that lesson, that I was basically making everything difficult. And I was completely out of alignment, which means alignment is basically where you are. You're in escapisms or extremes in your life.

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Jay Crew: and you don't even know it. It's your subconscious that is basically in this like fight or flight mode. And basically, what happens is you're going to feel your energy is plummeted. You're going to feel like you don't even know who you are anymore. You're going to feel that burnout is almost more of a best friend than anything, and I just kept thinking, just work hard. Everybody says you're going to be successful when you just work hard.

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Jay Crew: No, when you work just hard, what happens is you can work just hard 80 HA week, plus, but going in the wrong direction, making a lot of costly mistakes. And that's what I did. I just worked myself in a direction out of alignment, had a lot of limiting beliefs of like, I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy enough. I'm not deserving in that blah blah, those type of limiting beliefs, and it was just a cover up to just try to keep pushing and rushing and and forcing and things like this and

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Jay Crew: So eventually, what happened is, as you guys know, with business is, there's a lot of like highs and lows. And so, if, being an extreme rather than imbalance is going to shake you. It's and that's exactly what it did for me. So I was.

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Jay Crew: I had my dream life living in California had the beach house and and then one day it was like, I'm taking it all. I'm going to take it all from you, girl, because you wanted to go big. You want to go high. You keep having these dreams of you being able to overcome this. And

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Jay Crew: I'm going to show you what it feels like to to go to your rock bottom. You have to see who you really are, so you can actually find out what you are made of.

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Jay Crew: and it ripped everything from me. I sold my car. I had to get rid of the house. I had to move out of my favorite state. I had to move back home. I was living out of my car and eventually living with my sister and her little bunk bed in her house so for 8 months just couldn't find my way, just like I remember looking at people. And I was like, how can you smile? What is there to smile about like it was such a really low place.

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Jay Crew: And when you're there, you know.

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Jay Crew: you know, when you're there, and it's not a fun moment to to look around and and wonder what's the point. And when you get to that point, that's a rock bottom moment, and this is where you are defined, because then you recognize this. Is it

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Jay Crew: this is it?

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Jay Crew: You don't take away my birthday. You don't take away my knowledge. You don't take away my experience.

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Jay Crew: You don't take my my! Who I am like my soul! You don't take that away.

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Jay Crew: Oh, this is it!

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Jay Crew: And from that moment it's 1 of the most powerful places we can go to as a human being. I don't want us to go there as a human being. So that's why I'm here on this podcast is to prevent you from going to your rock bottom. I want to make sure that before you go to rock bottom, you actually find out who you are 1st and get into balance before you find yourself out of balance.

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Jay Crew: So so yeah, that would be the the story. And then the comeback story obviously is is history.

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Tanya: We are today. Right? So, and you're an Nlp coach. So would you say that that was part of

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Tanya: what helped you come out of that rock bottom is turning to neurolinguistic programming.

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Jay Crew: I would say that Nlp. Was something that just kind of more fell into and just wanted to get a certification wrapped with it.

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Tanya: Okay.

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Jay Crew: I would say, the thing that really helped me is during that time, when I was on Rock bottom, I was sponsored to go to a retreat because I couldn't afford it myself

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Jay Crew: and sponsored to go to a retreat called living freedom. And basically what it showed me is what Nlp teaches is the subconscious work, because consciously, we're going to hear. And I'm just going to throw this out there. The fake positivity water under the bridge, mind over matter. Just get over. It's not that big of a deal. It's not real like, you know. You hear all these type of like fake positives.

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Jay Crew: And basically, you might have heard, like the positive affirmations that we all grew up with ever since. You know, I'm an eighties, child. So when you grow up, and you all you learn about is just be positive. Well, what happens is that's just conscious, and it's not hitting your subconscious.

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Jay Crew: So there's a thought underneath the thought. And for me, what I learned is that when you go to the thought underneath the thought, when you go to the depth of it is where you start to find the control of who you are and who you're becoming, where you want to go. And really, what's steering this bus? Because at first, st if you feel like you're just a fish out of water, you feel like you're a hamster on a hamster wheel, and you have no direction. You don't know where you're going, and you feel like life is just tossing you around.

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Jay Crew: Well, there's a there's better control. Promise.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Tanya: and that's part of what you help people do. And you help people overcome anxiety without medication or reliving past trauma.

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Tanya: and can you just explain how that's possible? And then what makes your approach different from traditional therapy or mindset coaching.

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Jay Crew: One of my favorite things is, when I had a therapist he asked me, he goes, hey, Danita, I've heard this story 5 times. Would you like to hear it? 6. Would you like to say it 6 times, or would you like to actually find some tools to get out of it.

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Jay Crew: and that was when I knew I had a coach, not an actual talk therapist. So talk therapy. Now this is there's some really great ones out there, and there's some really not good ones out there. But ultimately, here's how simple it is just to know if your therapist is bringing you in the right direction.

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Jay Crew: By the time you get done, did you feel like all you did was talk yourself in circles, and then you feel like a number. They just said next, and they just brought the next person in, or did you feel like you were done? And you got some insight to take and grow from, and you are a different. You feel like a different person, more enlightened, more peaceful, more joyful, more gratitude. Whatever it is that allows you to step into actual tools, to then be able to utilize it after the lesson without fake positivity.

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Jay Crew: So that would be one difference, as far as what basically a coach versus a therapist. The other one, as far as medication. What we know is medication is just a Band-aid. I mean, everyone knows that.

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Jay Crew: And it's unfortunate that that is what is getting passed around in our medical world is just. Oh, you've got anxiety. You got depression. Here's a bunch of pills, and I have seen people on 5 plus

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Jay Crew: pills, overly medicated and still suffering.

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Tanya: Okay.

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Jay Crew: And it's unfortunate, because, like, they start off with one, and then it just continues to keep building from there. And so

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Jay Crew: the difference is and just a

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Jay Crew: I like to simplify what anxiety is. A lot of people think it's Satan. It's it's you know, something, a part of them that they can't control. It's genetics. And all these type of things. No.

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Jay Crew: is there so much there's so much amazing simplicity with when it comes to anxiety. So if everybody can kind of just create 2 columns in their mind, if you want to write this down, this will be really beneficial for those that are visual learners, but I want you to write down anxiety. You can call it overthinking. You can call it depression, whatever you want to call it, on one column

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Jay Crew: and on the other column. What is the opposite to you is that outgoing? Is that happy? Is that thriving whatever that is right. So now in your mind

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Jay Crew: you have 2 different realities.

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Jay Crew: and on the anxiety part. What you'll know is that anxiety is rooted in fear. There's no way that you can have anxiety unless you're rooted in fear. That is the baseline emotion. Okay?

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Jay Crew: And so where fear comes from is, it could be something that stemmed from your mom was always fearful.

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Jay Crew: or her mom was. Mom was always fearful. And so just naturalist children, we adopt fear that could be one way we get anxiety the other way we get anxiety is that we come into life events so trauma loss, or something that happened to us that really put us into that fight or flight

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Jay Crew: state, and from there what it turns it on is it activates our survival brain.

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Jay Crew: and we can go more into that. But there's different parts of the brain. There's a fear center of the brain. And there's also a center of the brain that does not like change. And that's why, as human beings. That's why we don't like to change, because our brains are actually developed to stay

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Jay Crew: the same.

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Jay Crew: Our brains are.

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Tanya: Be efficient.

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Jay Crew: Yeah, our brains are built to survive, not to thrive. And so when once we recognize that now you know what you're fighting against, a lot of people don't know what they're fighting against when they're in this anxiety world. So once the survival brain is activated.

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Jay Crew: what it's gonna do is it's going to put you on high alert. It's gonna try to protect you. And it's just just there to try to

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Jay Crew: prepare you for anything around the corner that might put you at any risk or or harm.

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Jay Crew: But what's going to happen is it's also going to make you feel very small, because it's going to shrink every aspect of just who you are. You're going to find it's called contracting energy. So to simplify that whole site of anxiety, fear, survival, brain. The ultimate end of it is what's called a contracting energy.

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Jay Crew: Now, if you look in physics.

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Jay Crew: contracting energy is basically from emotions that feel from neutrality and down where you're shrinking on yourself because you have a narrow focus. You're fixated on problems limitations. You're stuck on a hamster wheel because you can't see bigger picture. Therefore it starts causing health problems. I hear like dizziness. I hear brain fog. I hear

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Jay Crew: heart palpitations. I hear. I mean, the list goes on. There's so many of them right. But that is what there's myositis tension syndrome that a lot of doctors don't understand that anxiety stems from the brain goes into the nervous system and affects every single part of the body.

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Jay Crew: And so, when people are like, I've got heart palpitations. I don't know where it's coming from

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Jay Crew: Duh the nervous system.

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Jay Crew: So that. So that's the contracted. So the opposite of it

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Jay Crew: is, call it your thriving version of yourself.

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Jay Crew: And this is a an expanded state that you come into.

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Jay Crew: And this place is where you're in. Everything is different, meaning your middle ear turns on. You hear deeper

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Jay Crew: your ability to take in more oxygen because you're in that that calm rest, place, digestion kicks in oxygen, turns up your your ability to think more clear the bigger picture. It allows you to face those problems and limitations without being in a hamster wheel in this small space.

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Jay Crew: And so what this does is it activates so many parts of your creativity center, and you get to just open up and really become the version of you that you have in your mind

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Jay Crew: that, you know, was there, and she's real.

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Jay Crew: and you don't give up hope on her with how many times you're trying over and over and over again. But she exists, and that's if there's anything I can tell you on today is she exists that version of you

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Jay Crew: that gets everything she wants.

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Jay Crew: That version of you that is purely unstoppable.

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Jay Crew: That version of you that has nothing getting in her way. She exists.

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Jay Crew: So that's the simplification of kind of like what those 2 worlds look like.

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Tanya: Okay. So writing this down, making your 2 columns, and on the left is anxiety, fear whatever you want to call it, on the right. You're just writing down the opposite of that, like your thoughts. That would be the direct

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Tanya: opposite of that which would be your thriving mind in like opening up your mind

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Tanya: to see that there is another way of thinking about this.

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Jay Crew: Yeah, there's there's a really cool 4 step process that you can actually do to do this. So I want everyone to. If you've got a pen and paper. Go ahead and write this down, but the 1st step is, write down your limiting belief.

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Jay Crew: So let's say that was, I can't overcome this.

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Jay Crew: Something like this, right? Whatever limiting belief it comes up the second step. What I want you to do is I want you to flip it of something that's the opposite. That is actually true as well.

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Tanya: Hmm.

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Jay Crew: Then the 3rd step is, give me some evidence of that

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Jay Crew: 4th step is, feel it. What does that feel like to actually know that there is evidence of that. The opposite is true as well.

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Jay Crew: And immediately, with just in 4 steps like that, you're going to find yourself going into bigger picture, more control, broader perspective. And you're going to start beating the survival brain.

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Jay Crew: That's an example.

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Tanya: Beautiful, and for the overwhelmed mom at home, who feels stuck in stress, anxiety, procrastination.

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Tanya: Where would you suggest? She begins with this like, what's the 1st step.

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Jay Crew: for my journey. What I really liked is that this world is such an internal world as you can clearly see. Right? It's not. I'm not talking about actions as much as I'm talking about what your thought and your feelings are. This is your internal state that's going to be controlling everything. And so what I would do is what I did is I did an assessment on myself. I took all my belief systems. I rated them on a 1 to 10 scale, to just to find out where are my belief systems that would be one step

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Jay Crew: second step is, find out what emotions you feel the majority of the time I call them your emotional home. Do you feel fear, or grief, or guilt, or shame, like? What are those those emotions that you feel quite often that you wake up into, or you just feel like are repeating themselves over and over.

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Jay Crew: The 3rd step. If you wanted to go down a little, let's just stick with 2. So

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Jay Crew: from there, then you have at least an idea, as far as your frequency where it's at and as far as where your belief systems are at.

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Jay Crew: And then from there you start working on this. Let's say, if you have a therapist, you have a coach. Well, then, what we want to start seeing is that each one of those metrics are going up.

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Jay Crew: If they're not. Then you're stagnant. What's the point? Right? So to me? I like something tangible. I like to see that I'm actually growing in this. And so if those that are listening. I'm going to give a gift to all of your listeners right now. If everyone goes to call with danita.com. That's it. Just call with danita.com, and and I'll have her put the link in.

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Jay Crew: and I'll do a free assessment with you as a gift.

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Jay Crew: And what it is is you're gonna have a takeaway to know where you're at.

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Jay Crew: So that like, imagine going like when you go to the Mall. If you had no map of like where you're at and where you need to go. You're going to find yourself literally going through the entire Mall to figure out the store you want to go to. But if I give you a clear roadmap and I say you're right here, and you need to go right here. You're like. Oh.

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Jay Crew: now I know now I know where I'm going.

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Jay Crew: But before it's like

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Jay Crew: like in your head you're like where the heck do. I even start? The 1st part is is is, let me meet you where you're at.

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Jay Crew: out where that star is.

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Tanya: Yeah. Find out where awareness find out, where are you? Exactly. And where is it that you want to go? Because there's I feel like, there's so many

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Tanya: people out there that are just surviving, especially like my listeners like moms at home

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Tanya: feel like they're just surviving. And they've just like stopped dreaming.

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Tanya: Because, you know, when we were younger, it's like, you know, when you're in your teens, you're dreaming about like your future and like going to college and getting your 1st job and your career and then getting married and then having kids. And then, okay.

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Tanya: we're married. We have kids. We have the job. Or maybe we're stay at home.

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Tanya: And it's like, now, what?

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Tanya: And you're just surviving every day. So yeah, I love that just becoming aware of like, what does your life look like? And what do you want to change like, what do you want it to look like? And it's okay to dream. And it's okay to want things.

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Tanya: It doesn't mean you're not being grateful for your life right?

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Tanya: So you have a free masterclass, and you talk about 5 steps to break free from anxiety, stress, and procrastination.

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Tanya: I don't. If you haven't already. Could you walk us through one or 2 of those steps, and why they're so effective.

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Jay Crew: Yeah, I would say so. One of the steps I do is track and measuring, just like what I was explaining. The other step is

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Jay Crew: no longer fighting against the anxiety when once you recognize that the anxiety is actually a best friend like, think of it as like a bodyguard.

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Jay Crew: If you hire a bodyguard to try to protect you in your life, are you going to start like getting upset at your bodyguard and hitting them, and, like, you know, telling them to F off like. No, you're going to say thank you for protecting me. Thank you for keeping me safe. Thank you for making me feel like I'm okay, right here right now, like, that's what you're really going to do to a bodyguard. And that's what anxiety is. It's just coming from that mechanism of protection.

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Jay Crew: And so, as we hate anxiety, all it does is it becomes bigger, stronger, powerful, and starts to push push you further further down into being smaller, smaller. So my 1st step that I or one of my steps that I like to tell people is really just kind of write out. What? What is it trying to prepare you for?

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Jay Crew: What! What do you think it wants to protect you from.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Jay Crew: And when you listen to it.

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Jay Crew: is when there's so much more room of overcoming and taking back the control. Because you'll go. Oh, thank you so much for trying to prepare me for that next shoe that's going to drop in my life.

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Jay Crew: But, hey, honey, guess what? That? 97, 97% chance that's going to even happen. So it's okay. Thank you for letting me know what you think is going to happen, but I'm going to take my power back and let you know. Truth

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Jay Crew: of all of your thoughts. And I'm going to give you truth, and that's going to allow us to set free. So we can start focusing on the things we need to focus on in our life.

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Jay Crew: And and then, lastly, for those that are moms.

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Jay Crew: What I hear all the time is. Well, Danita, I don't have time for this because I got to focus on my kids. Now, my husband needs this. And okay, well, here's the thing is, you are the ripple effect. You are the thing that drops into the pond, and you're making a ripple effect into your home, whether you like it or not, it's just happening.

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Jay Crew: So you're either making a positive ripple effect.

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Jay Crew: And that's gonna come back later. And you're going to have so much joy and appreciation that you initially did the work, and so that it creates that ripple effect, or you're not working on yourself. You're draining your own cup

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Jay Crew: and feeling super depleted, constantly trying to give to people. Do we know it works? It doesn't work. We know that we've already been taught so many times. Put your own mask. On how many other times do we need to hear that? Right? But this is a this is an absolute

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Jay Crew: like moment in time I want you to recognize. It is not selfish to prioritize your own mental health.

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Tanya: Anyway.

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Jay Crew: And it will create a domino effect in your life that you will get paybacks in your life, like so many people will say, oh, I don't want to put money on me. I don't want to invest in me. Do you know, by not investing in yourself that actually lowers your confidence, and it just continues to keep spinning the mud and the mud more and more than it is.

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Jay Crew: But as soon as you invest in yourself you know what you're doing is you're saying I'm worth it.

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Jay Crew: All of a sudden it changes your ability and your your confidence goes up just by investing in yourself.

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Jay Crew: and by doing that, what you're doing is that ripple effect? Mark my words.

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Tanya: Preach. I love it. I so agree with everything that you're saying

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Tanya: so. I want to talk about you talked about time like we feel like we don't have enough time to work on ourselves so that jumped out at me

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Tanya: and your promise to help people achieve more in less time. So. And I that's my jam talking about time management. My listeners will know that.

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Tanya: Can you share your top time management secrets, or a daily practice that you swear by that helps with this.

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Jay Crew: Yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna run away from every cliche thing you probably have ever heard in your entire life. Like, I'm not gonna give you one thing that you probably have ever heard of. Okay, so

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Jay Crew: I want you to imagine a circle drawn on your page right now.

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Jay Crew: I'm a big visual learner. So you'll just she's just gonna have to spare with me here. And that is called your neurological pathway loop.

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Jay Crew: And from your neurological pathway loop. If you visualize that, there's thoughts that all drive our emotions.

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Jay Crew: And then that's the reinforcement back to the thoughts. Okay, I want you to imagine this loop. Okay, now we are in loops for our whole life. We just keep repeating the same thoughts, the same emotions, the same actions over and over and over again.

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Jay Crew: Now, what I want you to do is I want you to draw a line down that visually with me.

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Jay Crew: And on one side you're seeing just the thoughts and the emotions. And on the other side, you're seeing the actions and the outcome.

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Jay Crew: Well, what 92% of people do is they stick to the other side where it's actions outcome.

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Jay Crew: They're like, well, if I get on a routine, and I need to do this. And I got all these actions to try to create the outcome, because that's what's visible. That's what we see in our 3rd dimension world. This is visible, it's tangible. So it's easier. I just want to go and work hard and get the thing and then get a different outcome. And that's what I've got stuck in

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Jay Crew: what that actually revealed. Studies have revealed, that by living that world of split in half where you're just focusing on the things that you can tangibly see

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Jay Crew: No, you're not.

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Jay Crew: And so from that place the studies have revealed about 30 to 50% of your time is getting wasted

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Jay Crew: because you're completely out of alignment. Your internal world is contraction, but your outside world you're trying so freaking hard to be positive and optimistic and have an expanded life. It doesn't work, and it's just going to drain your energy, mark my words.

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Jay Crew: So the secret of this. I'm going to show you how much easier this is.

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Jay Crew: The thoughts are underneath everything. When people say your thoughts create your reality, listen to them

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Jay Crew: because they're not wrong.

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Jay Crew: Spirituality is telling us. Biology is telling us. Psychology is telling us physics is telling us so. Listen to what everybody is saying.

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Jay Crew: So when you go to the thoughts and we recognize there's a lot of limiting beliefs that's in each one of us, a lot of them. And as soon as we become moms, we get even more thinking that what's our purpose? What's the point? No.

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Jay Crew: those are limiting beliefs.

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Jay Crew: And the longer that they stay in there they're going to ruin all the emotions we feel as a human.

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Jay Crew: And so no wonder why we feel drained, and why we can't get a lot of stuff done. So I have worked with women for over 20 years in fitness, and one of the biggest things I saw. The time is I'm not motivated. I'm not consistent. Well, guess what I did as our trainer I was like. Well, just go on a walk and just drink some water, and all these like stupid surface things that guess what it works for a few days. And the next thing, you know. Poof! It's gone again. They're back to, not motivated, not consistent.

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Jay Crew: So if you're listening to me right now, get to the root of it, don't be afraid of it, because watch how easy this is. As soon as you clear the limiting beliefs

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Jay Crew: So as soon as I came into the belief of I am good enough. It's not my fault, I am worthy, and I'm deserving a boom. Immediately I felt higher I felt expanded.

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Jay Crew: So then, naturally guess what happens in that neurological pathway. Loop actions become next.

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Jay Crew: My actions are no longer in escapisms or extremes. Now I'm in balance, which saves my freaking time, which saves my freaking energy. I can get so much more done in a day, and I'm also very energetic. By the end of the day. You should feel my frequency being on this podcast to know if I'm lying or not lying to you right now, because we are all energy.

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Tanya: So my.

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Jay Crew: Albert Einstein changed my life.

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Tanya: Oh, I know what you're gonna say, this is my favorite. I think I know what you're gonna say, and it's my favorite quote. But go ahead.

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Jay Crew: I had no idea what this quote meant when I 1st read it, and if you don't either, that's okay. But what I'm telling you is. Write this, quote down and look at it every single day, until one day it hits you in the face, and you can't deny it. It is as real as gravity is that's pulling us back onto Earth right now.

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Jay Crew: That's how real it is.

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Jay Crew: So the quote is, we are all energy, everything is energy. This even is energy.

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Jay Crew: All you have to do is match the frequency of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It's not philosophy, it is physics.

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Jay Crew: Where people get stuck, they keep trying to change the reality. First.st

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Tanya: And then be happy,

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Jay Crew: Honey, that's not gonna happen.

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Tanya: We need to become happy first.st

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Jay Crew: And then we're gonna get everything you've ever wanted, that version of you that gets everything she wants. She exists.

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Jay Crew: And Albert Einstein proves that in physics, and I'll prove it to you as well. I did the exact same thing.

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Jay Crew: So how do you become happy?

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Jay Crew: You become happy. That's an emotion. Remember my neurological pathway loop.

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Jay Crew: Everything comes from your thoughts.

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Jay Crew: and if you want to keep running away from your thoughts and just keep staying busy and just keep doing laundry instead of actually really processing the thoughts. Then you'll be one of my 70 year olds that will be paying me later in life, saying I should've would have coulda. Don't be her! Don't be 70 years old, and finally say I'm going to now face it.

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Jay Crew: No, do it now.

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Jay Crew: I don't care how old you are, but your life is waiting.

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Jay Crew: Do not wait, and if you do wait, that just means you're valuing your time

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Jay Crew: Stop doing that, because what I'm going to promise you is that once you figure this out, you'll make so much more money in your life. You won't believe it.

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Tanya: You say.

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Jay Crew: That one more time when you start valuing your time over your money

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Jay Crew: Mic, drop.

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Tanya: I love it.

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Tanya: Thank you so much for coming on this show today, Danita. I really appreciate you. I know that the listeners are going to walk away with so much wisdom today, and hopefully they will reach out to you and sign up for a call to get to the root of their limiting beliefs.

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Tanya: And they can start feeling better.

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Tanya: but it starts from within. It starts from within, just like she said it all it stems from our thoughts. And that's what I preach every week on here is that our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings drive our actions, and our actions are creating the results in our life. So she is just reiterating everything that I believe to be true and everything that I say

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Tanya: so I feel like we are aligned. Danita. I so appreciate you coming on today and sharing your wisdom with us. Can you once again tell the listeners where they can find you? I don't know if your free masterclass is going on or not, but if it is, if you could share that, and again, how they can work with you if they want to go deeper.

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Jay Crew: Yeah, absolutely. So call with danita.com. We spell my name DANI, TA.

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Jay Crew: Get your assessment 1st after you get your assessment, then I can just send you the link to the masterclass to get started and learn those 5 steps. But I would 1st start with your assessment. Find out where you're at right now.

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Jay Crew: And you guys, no judgment. I was the lowest you could possibly imagine. All right when you go completely broke 24 h away from bankruptcy, literally homeless. Lost everything possible in your life like you can't get as low at some point. I mean, I was suicidal, right? So you can't get as low as as that rock bottom moment and and so no judgment to yourself, like, you know, once you go through this, you're going to find out how much easier life is. It really is.

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Jay Crew: So make the make that investment in yourself just schedule, a call, and I'll give out that masterclass right afterwards. And let me know, you guys came from this. Podcast and I'll give you a little bit more so

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Jay Crew: little bonus.

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Tanya: Awesome. Thank you so much.

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Tanya: All right, guys, thank you so much for tuning in today, and I'll talk to you next week. Bye.