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Episode 103: If Every Decision Feels Heavy, Listen to This
- Tanya Valentine
- Feb 3
- 4 min read
Do you ever feel like even the smallest decisions completely drain you?
What to make for dinner. Whether to respond to that text now or later.I. f you should say yes… or finally say no.
If every decision feels heavy lately, you’re not broken—and you’re not doing life wrong. In this episode of The Mom-entum Podcast, we’re talking about why decision-making feels so exhausting, especially for moms, and how learning to decide more confidently can change everything.
Last week, we talked about overwhelm and uncovered something important:Overwhelm doesn’t come from having too much to do.It comes from your thinking and decision fatigue.
Today, we’re going deeper into decision-making—because this is one of the most powerful skills you can build, not just as a mom, but as a human.
Why Decision-Making Feels So Hard
Your entire life is made up of decisions. And the quality of those decisions shapes the life you’re living.
When decision-making feels heavy, it’s usually because:
You’re overanalyzing
You’re afraid of making the “wrong” choice
You’re mentally exhausted from carrying too many open loops (decisions left unmade)
You don’t trust yourself the way you should
In this episode, I explain why indecision is far more draining than making a decision—and how staying stuck costs you time, energy, and confidence.
Knowledge Isn’t Power—Applied Knowledge Is
Here’s the truth most people miss:
Knowledge is not power. Knowledge is potential power.
Knowledge only becomes powerful when you apply it in your own life.
That’s exactly why I created the Decision-Making Worksheet—to help you take the ideas from this episode (and this post) and actually use them.
This worksheet helps you:
Get decisions out of your head and onto paper
Stop mental looping and second-guessing
Close open mental tabs that are draining you
Make decisions faster and with more confidence
How Better Decisions Save You Time
Think about how much time you’ve spent stuck in indecision:
Researching
Asking for opinions
Second-guessing
Waiting to feel “ready”
When you don’t decide, you don’t move forward. And often, it’s faster to make a decision, learn from it, and adjust than it is to wait for certainty that never comes.
One of the most important mindset shifts we talk about in this episode is this:
There are no wrong decisions.What makes a decision feel “wrong” is what you decide to think about it afterward.
The worksheet walks you through this process step by step so you’re not trying to figure it out on your own.
How Making Decisions Builds Confidence
Confidence doesn’t come before action.Confidence is created by action.
The more decisions you make:
The more action you take
The more you trust yourself
The less mental energy decisions require
Think about how overwhelming motherhood felt in the beginning—and how much easier those same decisions feel now. That didn’t happen because you waited to feel confident. It happened because you practiced.
Decision-making is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
How Decisions Increase Productivity
Indecision is exhausting. It’s like having dozens of tabs open in your brain, quietly draining your energy all day long.
When you finally make a decision, it feels like a weight lifts—because decisions close mental loops. And closed loops create clarity.
Once you decide, the next steps become obvious. Momentum follows clarity.
The worksheet is designed to help you close those loops on paper, so your brain doesn’t have to keep carrying them.
Why We Stall on Decisions
Most of us aren’t afraid of the decision itself—we’re afraid of how we’ll talk to ourselves if it doesn’t work out.
But when you decide ahead of time that you’ll have your own back no matter what, decision-making becomes so much easier.
Instead of asking:
“Is this the right decision?”
Try asking:
“What did I learn?”
“Did this move me closer to what I want?”
“How will this inform my next decision?”
Your Action Plan for This Week
To start building confidence and reducing decision fatigue, try this:
1. Set deadlines: Stop letting decisions linger. Give yourself a clear decision date.
2. Practice deciding faster: Make small, low-stakes decisions quickly—what to eat, what to listen to, when to respond to a text. Momentum builds confidence.
3. Have your own back: No matter the outcome, commit to supporting yourself and learning from it.
If you want help applying all of this to a real decision you’re facing right now, the worksheet will walk you through it.
Final Thoughts
If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this episode, it’s this:
You are far more capable than you think. You don’t need to wait until you feel ready. Clarity comes after the decision—not before it.
If this episode resonated with you, I would be so grateful if you shared it with a friend or left a rating and review. It helps this podcast reach more women who need this message.
You’ve got this.
Overwhelm and worry are not useful.
And everything is figureoutable.
With love and gratitude,
Tanya :)
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