How to Stop Blocking What You're Trying to Create

Manifestation often feels like a mystery, especially when you’ve done the work of asking and believing but still find yourself stuck. Many people focus on setting goals or visualizing success, yet they overlook a crucial step: receiving. This phase is where most people unintentionally block their own progress. The challenge isn’t wanting what you asked for; it’s feeling safe and ready to accept it.

This post explores why receiving can feel uncomfortable, how self-sabotage acts as a form of protection, and practical ways to open yourself up to what you’ve already asked for and believed in. It’s especially helpful for moms juggling busy lives, internal guilt, and competing responsibilities who want a grounded, compassionate approach to manifestation. If you prefer to listen and to really solidify this concept, have a listen to the podcast episode below!

Episode 101 How to Stop Blocking What You're Trying to CreateTanya Valentine

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Manifestation as a Creative Process

Manifestation is not about wishful thinking or forcing outcomes. It’s a creative process with three clear steps: Ask, Believe, and Receive.

• Ask

This step is about clarity. What do you truly want? Why do you want it? It’s important to reconnect with your imagination and desires without judgment. Allow yourself to want freely, even if it feels vulnerable.

• Believe

Belief comes before proof. This means practicing visualization, emotional rehearsal, and thinking from the identity of the person who already has what they want. It’s about aligning your mindset and feelings with your goal.

• Receive

Receiving is the step where many get stuck. It requires preparing yourself internally so you don’t push away what’s coming your way. This means calming your nervous system and creating a sense of safety around success.

Understanding manifestation this way helps shift the focus from forcing results to nurturing your readiness to accept them.

Why Receiving Feels Uncomfortable

Receiving can feel scary because it challenges your nervous system. When you imagine success or abundance, your body might react with stress or anxiety. This happens because your brain is wired to protect you from change or anything unfamiliar.

Self-sabotage often shows up here. It might look like procrastination, guilt, or controlling behaviors. These actions are not random; they serve as protection mechanisms. Your mind is trying to keep you safe from what feels unknown or risky.

For example, a mom might feel guilty about taking time for herself to pursue a goal. That guilt can block her from fully receiving the benefits of her efforts. The nervous system’s job is to keep you safe, but sometimes it mistakes growth for danger.

How to Stop Blocking Your Own Progress

Opening yourself to receive what you want takes practice and patience. Here are some practical steps to help you feel safe and ready:

1. Notice Your Resistance

Pay attention to moments when you feel stuck or uncomfortable. What thoughts or feelings come up? Are you doubting yourself or feeling guilty? Naming these feelings helps you understand what’s blocking you.

2. Practice Self-Compassion

Instead of judging yourself for resistance, treat yourself kindly. Recognize that your nervous system is trying to protect you. Say things like, “It’s okay to feel this way,” or “I’m learning to receive.”

3. Create Small Wins

Start with small ways to receive. This could be accepting a compliment, allowing yourself a break, or saying yes to a small opportunity. These small acts build your confidence in receiving bigger things.

4. Regulate Your Nervous System

Find simple ways to calm your body when you feel overwhelmed. Deep breathing, gentle movement, or grounding exercises can help your nervous system feel safe. When your body feels calm, your mind can open to receiving.

5. Visualize Receiving

Go beyond visualizing the outcome. Imagine yourself actually receiving it—feeling the emotions, hearing the words, noticing the details. This emotional rehearsal prepares your nervous system for the real experience.

Creating a safe space to receive what you desire

Receiving as an Act of Trust

Receiving means trusting yourself and the process. It’s about believing that you deserve what you asked for and that you can handle it. This trust grows over time as you practice the steps above.

For busy moms, this can be especially challenging. The demands of family and work often make it hard to prioritize your own needs. But receiving is not selfish—it’s necessary for growth. When you allow yourself to receive, you model healthy boundaries and self-care for your family.

Moving Forward with Openness

Manifestation is a journey that requires patience and kindness toward yourself. The final step, receiving, is where transformation happens. When you stop blocking what you’re trying to create, you open the door to new possibilities.

Try these ideas in your daily life:

• Notice when you resist good things coming your way. Awareness is the first step to change!

• Practice small acts of receiving. For example, when someone gives you a compliment say, "Thank you, I receive that."

• Use calming techniques to soothe your nervous system, like breathing exercises or doing a body scan.

• Visualize not just the goal but the experience of receiving it. Practice gratitude ahead of time. Be grateful for having received whatever it is you are trying to manifest.

  
  
  
  

By shifting your focus to feeling safe and ready, you align with the flow of manifestation. You don’t have to force outcomes. Instead, you prepare yourself to welcome what you’ve already asked for and believed in.