How One Mom Created Freedom and Financial Growth by Putting Family First

Tanya Valentine
7 days ago
29 min read

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Hey friends — get ready for an episode that will stay with you long after your earbuds come out.

Today, I’m joined by Melissa Hampton — a powerhouse mom, financial advisor, and entrepreneur — who shares her deeply personal journey of nearly losing her son, completely reevaluating her life, and making bold moves to take back her time, her peace, and her purpose.

Melissa opens up about:

How four months in the ICU with her son completely shifted her mindset

Why forgiveness and acceptance became her lifelines

What she had to unlearn as a mom and a business owner

How she went from chasing hustle culture to creating time freedom (and still doubled her income!)

This is one of those stories that hits you in the heart and lights a fire in your belly. Melissa’s strength, faith, and wisdom will move you — especially if you’ve ever felt pulled between your work, your family, and your own sense of purpose.

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👉 Website: www.hamptonwm.com

👉 Facebook: Hampton Wealth Management

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Transcript

Hey friends! I cannot wait for you to hear today’s episode. I sat down with Melissa Hampton—a certified financial advisor, single mom of two, and one of the most grounded and resilient women I’ve ever met.

Melissa has built a successful career helping families and business owners plan for the future, but it was a personal crisis that completely shifted the way she approached life, work, and motherhood. In 2022, her then 7-year-old son fell critically ill and was in the ICU for four months. Life came to a screeching halt. Melissa went from running full-speed on the hamster wheel to sitting still at her son’s bedside, praying for a miracle. And when that miracle came? She didn’t go back to the hustle. She built a new life—one rooted in faith, freedom, and intention.

We talk about everything from forgiveness to redefining success, from trading busyness for peace to how she doubled her time with her kids and her income. (Yes, really!) If you’ve ever found yourself caught between striving and surviving, wondering if it’s possible to do less but do it better—this episode will speak to you deeply.

Melissa’s story is powerful, emotional, and full of wisdom. She reminds us that sometimes the darkest moments in life can become our biggest turning points—and that we get to choose what happens next.

Let’s dive into my conversation with Melissa Hampton!

Tanya: All right. Hi, Melissa, welcome to the mom. Antem. Podcast thank you so much for coming on today.

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Melissa Hampton: Hey, Tanya? Yeah, thanks for having me. You have such amazing topics for women, and I'm just excited to be a part of it. Thank you.

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Tanya: Oh, I'm it's such a pleasure to have you on. I can't wait to just jump right in today. So before this, I introduced you. I read your bio, but I want to hear from your point of view. Please tell us your story, including I know you're a mom. So how many kids you have and where you live. And what do you do today?

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah, absolutely. Okay. So we're jumping right in. I have 2 kids. So I have an almost 14 year old daughter. And I have a 10 year old, son, and, like most moms, I've completely surrounded everything I do. You know with what works best for them. So I think that that journey is pretty relatable to other moms.

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Tanya: Sure.

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Melissa Hampton: Currently, I'm a certified financial planner.

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Melissa Hampton: more so known as a financial advisor. And I own my own firm. So that's been a pretty big journey to get there, especially starting a new career when my kids were so young.

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Melissa Hampton: But yep, I'm a single mom. My kids are my everything. I love what I do, and we're just living the best life.

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Tanya: Okay. So you did you go back to school to become a financial planner when, after you had your kids, then.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah. So so I went through divorce about 10 years ago. So when my son was a baby, and it kind of just completely turned everything you know on on its head, as far as that goes, starting over financially and with a career because I had opened businesses and everything else and managed those. So I left my career, my house and everything, and started over with very little

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Melissa Hampton: so went to work as a as an accountant for our university, and I was recruited by a major corporate firm to become a financial advisor.

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Melissa Hampton: I'd also just got my master's in business education because I thought, Hey, I want to be a teacher, you know it's the best best schedule for my kids. But you know God had different plans, and I went this advising journey direction instead.

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Melissa Hampton: And so they recruited me. And that's when what I say. I jumped on the hamster wheel right? Cause it was like, I mean, do or die at that point is how I felt. And so the way that that job worked was, you know, you're paid very little. So you have to go go bigger, more all the time in order to even pay my bills.

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Tanya: Creating time for money, more time and effort.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah, absolutely.

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Melissa Hampton: Yep. So that was almost 7 years ago. So my kids were really young, 3 and 6. And I remember asking someone, my gosh! I don't know if this is the right time to do that when my kids are so young.

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Melissa Hampton: And they said, Nope, do it now because they're going to need you more later, and that has actually become very true. Now, having a teenage daughter, I'm finding that she surprises me every day, and I do need more time for her and for my son, as they have more activities and are busier.

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Melissa Hampton: But yes, so that's how the career started trading time for money. I was on the hamster wheel doing very well, because I'm very like goal oriented driven. If there's a competition, I'm going to win it. Type of thing, and that's how the corporation was set up for success. So I fell right into that.

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Melissa Hampton: I've shared a little bit just about like what happened in 2022, when I was about 5 years, you know, 4 years into that journey, and all of a sudden that hamster wheel stopped immediately when my son got sick unexpectedly. And we were life flighted to Omaha, Nebraska, and spent 4 months in the Icu. So literally we went from go go like

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Melissa Hampton: my vision of what success my current vision of what success was like. This is great. We're doing well to life is stopping completely, and it's time to reevaluate here. So that's when I really made the change.

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Tanya: So yeah, can you get into that a little bit more deeper like, how old was he like you mentioned he was sick. What? What was he sick with? What happened like? Tell us about the day that.

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Melissa Hampton: Sure. Yeah. So it was. 2022 Good Friday. He had had a tummy ache all week later we would have found out that he had Rotavirus. So lots of kids have Rotavirus.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: You know, flu like symptoms, tummy ache, fluid retention, that type of thing they assumed. It was his appendix. So they took out his appendix, and then that just exasperated his whole

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Melissa Hampton: symptoms. Going into surgery, he fell septic on Easter Sunday, and then we were rushed to a local, another local hospital, and then life flighted the

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Melissa Hampton: the following day. So he fell into a coma. They didn't know what was going on. We were tested for everything. We all went through genetic testing. I mean, he was scammed for anything you can think of like Ebola virus like any any weird thing out there, and what they just found, that his body had just shut down, and the fluid retention was trying to protect his organs, which was an amazing

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Melissa Hampton: process, really, to see his body work through that

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Melissa Hampton: So

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Melissa Hampton: ultimately his internal organs were declared gone, so he was kept open and washed out every other day in the Icu, and we were in that state for about 6 weeks.

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Melissa Hampton: Until you know, Hospice Care said, there's nothing we can do, and that was

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Melissa Hampton: breaking point. If we're getting into Jesus breaking point, you know. The pitfalls of life. This is the part of that story.

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Melissa Hampton: So.

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Tanya: Oh, my gosh! So they said that there's nothing we can do like. They.

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Tanya: Said he was gonna die.

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Melissa Hampton: Right. Yep, and he was in a coma. He was on all life support besides, and echo so his heart was still beating, you know, on its own but one day they said, You know you need to say goodbye because he is the sickest child that we have

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Melissa Hampton: going into our Icu.

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Melissa Hampton: and I couldn't do it. I mean, it's looking back on it. It's like a lifetime movie like where you see the mom like

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Melissa Hampton: I I wouldn't let go of his bed, you know, like as they're trying to pull him out of the room and take him to surgery.

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Melissa Hampton: and

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Melissa Hampton: that up to that point. What I realized was like, I was just pushing back. I was angry. I was angry at the people for making mistakes. I was angry at God like, why are you doing this to me? I was just angry and trying to control anything that I could still control, and that point was the point where I said, like, Okay, like this is, this is, I guess, in your hands, you know.

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Melissa Hampton: there was no other choice. There's nothing I could do. There's nothing on this world that anyone could do. So we had to. I had to switch my thinking from like fear and anger, to just hope

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Melissa Hampton: and prayer that you know something was going to turn around, and it was out of my hands at that point.

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Melissa Hampton: So I called my priest. We had, you know, a big, I mean literally come to Jesus while he was in surgery, you know, and all the questions like, Why is this happening to us like. What did I do to deserve this? What did he do to deserve this like? Choose me instead.

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Melissa Hampton: And he said, Melissa, this isn't God doesn't punish you for things, you know.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: Mistakes happen in life, and God gives you the opportunity to move forward and make the choice. What the next move is going to look like what you're going to do with the situation.

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Melissa Hampton: So I went back to the room, and I laid with Kellen, and I told him, if you can't do it anymore. Then go be with Jesus, you know, and go be his warrior.

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Melissa Hampton: and that was me giving up control.

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Melissa Hampton: which is the hardest moment like I can. I can banter this all day long, but coming to that point is still a super hard part of the story, but it changed our lives forever, obviously. And he ended up waking up from his coma, and somehow his organs started to pink up one tiny little pinprick at a time.

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Melissa Hampton: and they have no reason why there's no medical reasoning why he came back from that, and.

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Tanya: Well.

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Melissa Hampton: So, sitting there, I had nothing to do but pray and evaluate my life and think about like what's really important, because, to be honest, I didn't care about anything else at that point, you know, like, I didn't care

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Melissa Hampton: care about money. Yeah, I didn't care about anything, just spending as much time as I could with him.

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Melissa Hampton: So we made a lot of changes in life. I homeschooled him when we got home. He eventually did go back to school, but I gave away half of my book right away, and then started making plans to

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Melissa Hampton: change. Companies go independent and have control over what my time looked like

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Melissa Hampton: how I could identify what success looks like, which is really the freedom to spend with my kids and help people in my own terms. So

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Melissa Hampton: that's how it came full circle.

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Melissa Hampton: you know, there's been a lot of healing, and I never have the answers all figured out, you know, every day. There's something new that I think I'm learning from that experience or from owning my own business or helping people with their own finances. So I'm very well aware that I will forever be a student in all of those areas.

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Melissa Hampton: Okay.

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Tanya: Oh, my gosh! I can't even believe that story like

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Tanya: how horrific! And I'm so happy for you that everything turned out okay.

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Tanya: And I so believe in that, like the power of faith.

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Tanya: And it's just so amazing that after you let go of having a control, and you just put it in the hands

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Tanya: of God that.

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Tanya: He miraculously healed. And I have so many examples of things like that happening in my life like I had my own traumatic experience, where I almost died from a really bad miscarriage. I was like bleeding to death.

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Melissa Hampton: Oh, wow!

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Tanya: And I only had 2 kids at the time. Now I have 3. But yeah, it just it unfortunately sometimes takes experiences like that to wake us up

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Tanya: and snap us, snap us out of the slumber that we're in, and

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Melissa Hampton: Absolutely.

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Tanya: Just wake us up to what's important, because that's what happened to me, and it just makes me think of

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Tanya: my unfortunately, a family here where I live.

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Tanya: a little boy that went to school with my oldest daughter. They did not have

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Tanya: a happy ending like you did, but they just lost their 9 year old, son. And he it was horrible. Yeah, he had. I talked about it on the podcast. Like, about a month ago, because it was just so like

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Tanya: it just shook our world. Yeah, he ended up having meningitis like he on Thursday, was sent home from school with a really bad headache, and literally 2 days later he was brain dead.

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Tanya: It was meningitis. And I was like praying, too, for him when I found out about it, because it all happened very fast, and I heard that, like they were going to take him off of life support on Monday. Well, he started with a headache on Thursday. So I'm like.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah.

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Tanya: Just like praying like.

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Melissa Hampton: So fast. Yeah.

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Tanya: Yeah, it's just crazy. But

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah.

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Tanya: Unfortunately his story did not have a happy ending, and

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Tanya: we'll never know. You know.

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Melissa Hampton: Why?

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: I think that, like I'm very aware of

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Melissa Hampton: exactly what you just said, like, I can speak about this and and tell people reevaluate your lives, you know. Give it up to God all of these things, because I still have my son. You know the other scenario is very hard to. I like I can't imagine, because I'm not there, but hard to understand that.

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Melissa Hampton: You! You may not see the silver lining that has come from that event, but I know, like even from Kellen's story, a lot of people dusted off their Bibles. A relative told me that it saved her marriage.

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Tanya: I don't know.

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Melissa Hampton: You know. So like it wasn't that that little boys burden to carry for those people to change their lives, but because of that there will be lives changed.

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Tanya: Oh, and I think that's really yeah.

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Tanya: I know it's so hard. And like, I, I just think about his mom often.

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Tanya: But yeah, like, cause it even affected our life, and we don't even know this boy like my

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Tanya: It just makes brings me to tears tears every time. But

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Tanya: A friend of mine. She's neighbors with them. I don't even know where I was going with this. But yeah, like, I mean, we don't know them, but it has affected me, and it just like it was a reminder of what is important, like, what? Where is my focus? Where's my attention going right now, like Reevaluate, like what is important. My, there really is nothing more important than my family, my kids, and my time.

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Melissa Hampton: Yep, yep, no. A 100%. And somewhere along the lines, I mean, I think we're in the generation where we were taught like you do more, you do harder you do.

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Melissa Hampton: Everything is bigger and better. And like, I think finally, maybe our world is stopping a little bit. Everyone's hitting pause to realize, how can we be really effective and do less like that's my goal like, how can I still serve my clients and provide for my kids.

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Melissa Hampton: but do less and do it more efficiently and do it.

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Tanya: You know, with.

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Melissa Hampton: With more quality and intention, and

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Melissa Hampton: and then live my life, you know, live my life outside of that

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Melissa Hampton: But I hope like, maybe it's just because of the people I'm surrounded with who are feeling this. But all the noise, all the pressure, the dual income households, the single parenthood like it all, just really, I think, has come to our head in our world

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Melissa Hampton: to bring us to the attention that, like you can't do that like it's it's you can't keep living to the Max like you have to have this padding, to live your life, and to take care of yourself, and to take care of your family? Because yes, you never know.

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Melissa Hampton: But there was. There's always something in the background that's being sacrificed, you know, during those years that I had to push.

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Melissa Hampton: and I had to hustle like I was so sick all the time. You know, my kids were in daycare before and after work like there were sacrifices that were made. And that's not okay for me anymore. It's not negotiable.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah.

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Tanya: Oh!

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Melissa Hampton: So, yeah, I think that like a a lot of your audience is women. I think.

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Tanya: Good thing.

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Melissa Hampton: I think what I've really learned. One of your questions that I read through was like, what have you had to unlearn? And that's.

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Tanya: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: Of success, you know. Like to me, success was making a lot of money, being super busy having a ton of clients like no, that's not success for me anymore. It's like freedom, like financial freedom.

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Melissa Hampton: time, freedom, you know, to to do what I want with my kids when I want to and I think women

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Melissa Hampton: women need to hear that because.

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Melissa Hampton: None of our situations are the same.

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Melissa Hampton: and you can tell, like in your soul and in your core, if you are pushing against what your like true belief system is, if that makes sense like, if it just, it just feels icky right.

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Tanya: Yes, it just feels like something's off.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah. Yep.

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Tanya: So.

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Melissa Hampton: So like as women, we need to reevaluate like what our own success is and not care about what other people think.

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Melissa Hampton: because who? I mean, they're they're always gonna be talking. They're always going to be watching. But like what? It only matters to you. That's it. It only matters to you and your kids and your family?

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Melissa Hampton: so I think that's the biggest thing that I had to unlearn during all of that as a mom and as a woman.

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Tanya: Was your definition of success? And where is that even coming from? Is it coming from my soul like what I truly believe? Or is it what I've been programmed to believe? Is it like the influence of just how it was brought up and just culture.

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Melissa Hampton: Yep, yeah. And you might need therapy to evaluate that I have. You know you might you you definitely need more quiet time to yourself.

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Tanya: Yes.

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Melissa Hampton: Evaluate what that is because we don't get that

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Melissa Hampton: but your body knows, and it it may be how you were raised. I was raised very simply in a huge family with a lot of support and

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Melissa Hampton: pretty religious based. So yeah, I tend to go back to that. Like me, buying a giant multimillion dollar house that I don't need. That doesn't feel good to me, you know, because of how I was raised.

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Melissa Hampton: so I think it does. A lot of that does come back to your upbringing and your core values.

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Tanya: I love that.

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Tanya: Next I want to talk about forgiveness, because it was something that you had mentioned that you learned a lifetime of knowledge about Jesus and forgiveness through your most challenging moments, this near death experience with your son and the divorce. So can you just share what you've learned, and then how it's impacted your life.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah. So forgiveness and acceptance. Like, let's just take his dad for her example. You know, it's not a good situation that we left, and then here we are with a son who's really sick, and during that time, like I had to accept him for who he was, seeing him in a different

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Melissa Hampton: just accepting him for who he is, and moving on, and and for forgiving him for things that had happened

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Melissa Hampton: that was pretty healing during that time.

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Melissa Hampton: You know, the nurses were really young, like I think about how hard of an experience that was for them. I hope that they're still.

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Melissa Hampton: I know that, like all of the medical professionals that came into contact with calendaring, those 4 months will forever practice differently, because they also went from being super scared and not knowing what was going on like, we're we're in the middle of the night, all googling on our phones like that's how unknown the situation was to, you know we're standing in the morning

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Tanya: That's so beautiful, so beautifully sad.

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Melissa Hampton: Protects your heart and protects you from getting in those situations again. But it doesn't like it serves no one any purpose to hold that anger, and to hold that blank.

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Tanya: And it hurts you when you can't forget, like I think most people have heard that like forgiveness is for you, and I even try. I try to teach my daughter this because her you have a son and a daughter, did you say? Do they fight as much as my kids do?

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Tanya: It's not easy to do, and it doesn't mean you have to trust the person either.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah. And accept acceptance goes in into that. Because, like, you never know what someone's experiences, they may not even have the knowledge to treat you a certain way. They may not have that

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Tanya: Yeah. And you don't know what they're going through, and just like the struggles in their own mind, their own internal being. What struggles they're going through. We never know.

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Tanya: So so how is this like forgiveness impacted your life like, how do you feel like now? Versus like before?

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Melissa Hampton: I think I lived like every day like, hey, life is great, despite blah blah blah, you know, like I held on to all of those bad things, or

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah. And it's like, Nope, accept it and move on. And now I just stop it. Hey, life is great like, it doesn't matter, despite anything else like that was in the past.

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Melissa Hampton: So it just allows you to move forward with more positivity, and it is a big weight off your shoulders. And it's so funny that like when I realized that I needed to forgive all these people, God's like, Oh, you can handle more right like, here's some more like you will be surprised at how many times you have to do this in your life.

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Melissa Hampton: And it's it's hardship and it it's just life. It's not bad luck, like life is hard.

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Tanya: like maybe they do something or say something, or even just like in your own head, like you just remember something that they said or did, or maybe you're just like, Oh, do you ever like overthink

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Melissa Hampton: Every every single day. You know, like mentioned this before the eat. Pray, love, you haven't watched that movie. You should watch it because.

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Melissa Hampton: Well, what part of it so like for me like when things pop into my mind, I try and think of ways to get them out like if it's if it's a doubt if it's anger, whatever it is like, I try and like have the counter thought ready to go, you know. And that's journaling. It's just practice

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Melissa Hampton: and that's such a simple thing to do, but it like redirects your mind to being positive and.

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Melissa Hampton: You know you always hear like we'll just pray for them, and that's the hardest thing to do. Why would I pray for.

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Melissa Hampton: And hopefully, so that it's not. It doesn't happen to the next person and the next person. So

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Tanya: Well, you're saying this. And I can so relate, even like, there's somebody in our lives right now. And it's just and there was a podcast episode that I listened to years ago, like, when I 1st started listening to podcasts like after that whole experience. And it was that it was the 3 and 30 podcast for moms.

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Tanya: yeah and it is and it is. It's all about this, like praying for people that you just like.

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Tanya: help. It helps with the forgiveness, and it helps with, because it doesn't serve you. The person right to keep thinking about it, and just

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Tanya: Yes, all of the just creating, looking for evidence of all of the things that prove that this person is a bad person, you know it just doesn't serve any purpose at all. But I love that just

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Melissa Hampton: yeah, with what you were saying serving you. Oh, it doesn't. And it's like another self protection thing like right? If you can just think of things instead of spiraling like you said, if you can. Once that thought comes into your mind like, what can I think of or do to get that out and move on to positivity.

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Tanya: Yeah, and that could be, step one. Just send them light.

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Tanya: Yes. So you mentioned, I really want to get into this before, because I know that you're gonna have to go. You have an appointment after this, but I really want to get into before you go. You mentioned doubling your time with your kids while doubling your income, and I know that every mom is wondering, how is this possible, and how.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah, yep. So I don't think I did it right, because, like talking about the hustle. So I started the hustle with a major corporation. Well, when you're an advisor in a major corporation like, I paid 63% of my income back to that corporation right?

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Melissa Hampton: And I was bonus for more and more and more. So that's what I did when I made the switch over to being independent. Yes, now I'm a business owner. Yes, now I have all of my expenses, but I keep my income, and so that may not apply to all of the moms. But what I will say is, when you're making a life change, to exchange time for money or reverse

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Melissa Hampton: focus on the quality instead of the quantity. And that's really hard. Because, like, let's say, there's a lot of coaches like there's a lot of moms that are coaches. So you're like, Gosh! I could coach this this gal. I could coach 20 gals for a hundred bucks, great.

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Melissa Hampton: Well, what if you just coached one gal really good for 2,000 bucks, you know. So like increasing the quality of the work that you do, which will in turn

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Melissa Hampton: migrate all of these people to you that are also quality and looking for those quality services. And that's the way that I operate my business. Now I work with people who need and want my help above and beyond what they can do with themselves at E-trade, right like they need my expertise and my strategies. So I'm working with a very

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Melissa Hampton: Trading my time to do that, and really with some things that they just need some simple education on. And they could do themselves. So does that maybe help like for your audience to think about?

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Melissa Hampton: Hey? What am I doing? Just 10 x. The quality in order to decrease the amount of time that you're spending on that

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Tanya: to schedule and set aside some quiet time to actually answer that question, what would quality over quantity look like in my life.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah, exactly. And like, what does your ideal life look like? So if you're

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Melissa Hampton: 10 HA day now, what could you get done in 5 HA day, and that might mean working with fewer clients at a higher rate.

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Melissa Hampton: A day with double the amount and lower paying clients or lower ticket offers. I'm trying to make it relatable to what most people most women are probably doing

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Melissa Hampton: You know, I I'm also aware, like there are like, I worked a 7 to 5 job. You know, I was wrapping my kids up in a blizzard at 6 in the morning to go to daycare like I get that. There are times in your life where you need to hustle, but you can get out of that. And there are people like us that are totally willing to visit with you about how you can get out of that how you can move past that

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Tanya: Yep.

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Tanya: you were an example that it is possible. And don't tell yourself that you don't know like you can figure it out.

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Melissa Hampton: Yep, everything's figure outable. Yep.

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Tanya: Yes, yes, Marie Forleo, I love her for that one that is like my go go to like mantra. Awesome. Okay. Well, I know you have to go, so

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Tanya: we'll wrap it up. Where can listeners find you? And are there any resources that you would like to share.

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Melissa Hampton: Yeah, absolutely. So Facebook, Hampton wealth management. And then online, hamptonwm.com. It's spelled like the Hampton Hotel. No relation to that. But I do give like a lot of blog posts, resources, cheat sheets, checklists, because, like, I said earlier, like a lot of the population just really need some good education

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Melissa Hampton: and then to become a client, a financial planning engagement or investment management engagement. You can read more about that on the website. But then I offer, you know, of course, more of those resources to clients as well to help support them and continue to educate them as well.

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Tanya: Okay, awesome. Well, thank you so much for coming on today, Melissa. I loved hearing about your story and the story about your son, and I'm so

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Melissa Hampton: So I yeah, I mean, I've I've not shared this story until recently. But people need to hear.

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Melissa Hampton: Outcome, and they need to hear, you know what's possible. So.

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Melissa Hampton: So, thanks for like, yeah, allowing me to share.

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Tanya: Oh, my God, I love it! That's what this is for. That's what this platform is for for people to share their stories and inspire other people and give them hope. So thank you for being that example of what's possible.

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Melissa Hampton: Thanks so much, Tanya.

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Melissa Hampton: Okay, thanks. So much. Yes.

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